Conscious Competence in Stress Management

Recently I talked about a way to reduce your stress during the upcoming holidays. If you live in the U.S., you probably had your first chance to practice over Thanksgiving. How did you do? Did you have any “aha” moments? As a quick recap, in the post I just mentioned, I talked about changing the story you are telling yourself and discovering that it changed the meaning of the event… which in turn, reduced the stress (if you changed the story in a helpful way. If you didn’t, you may have increased the stress. Oops.) In the post I used … Continue reading

Holidays, Stress, and You

As you know, the holidays are coming. And, of course, they bring with them additional stresses (as if we weren’t stressed enough, already.) As you prepare for the holidays, you may find yourself resenting the extra work, effort, and planning/scheduling you have to do. Perhaps you are telling the story of how put-upon you are. Or maybe you are telling yourself the story that the end result isn’t worth the effort. Or that you don’t have time for all this. In effect, you are saying it is a waste of your time and energy. What if you reviewed your story … Continue reading

Stress and Your Stories

Recently, we have been covering some stress management techniques. You may recall that we talked about breathing, exercise, getting outside, and talking with a friend. These are short-term stress management techniques so that you can de-stress enough to implement more long-term solutions. But, in this next series of posts, I want to talk about something that generates stress for us – something that we can change just by becoming aware of it. I have mentioned before that stress is a part of life – a necessary part of life. The same struggles that are required for a butterfly to emerge … Continue reading

Is Stress Really That Bad?

If you have followed me for any time, you may have already heard me share that “Stress Makes You Stupid”. (I originally heard that from Silvia Hartmann.) And, it’s true.   However, Silvia recently pointed out that stress has some other nasty implications (I mean besides the usual suspects.) For instance, are you a better person when you are not stressed? Most of us are. Relaxed, not stressed (possible/probable) behaviors: Calm Understanding Patient Loving Considerate Joyful Creative Happy Playful Clear-thinking Thoughtful Productive Energetic   And, the other side of the coin is our behavior when we are stressed.   Stressed … Continue reading

Stress Relief – Are You Already Doing These?

In a recent post, I talked about stress and gave you one thing you can do right away to help manage your stress (hint: breathe.) And, I promised that I would share some more things you can do right away to help with stress. Remember, though, that there are two kinds of stress — good stress (eustress) and bad stress (distress). In our discussions we will talking about ways to reduce the bad stress, and not worry too much about the good stress. There are also a few things that are mixed. For instance, exercise is one of those things … Continue reading