If you have followed me for any time, you may have already heard me share that “Stress Makes You Stupid”. (I originally heard that from Silvia Hartmann.) And, it’s true.
However, Silvia recently pointed out that stress has some other nasty implications (I mean besides the usual suspects.) For instance, are you a better person when you are not stressed? Most of us are.
Relaxed, not stressed (possible/probable) behaviors:
And, the other side of the coin is our behavior when we are stressed.
Reactive (knee-jerk responses)
Which group do you usually fall in? And what about the people you dislike? Is it possible that their “bad” behaviors are really the result of stress?
Which group do you want to be in?
When you see the lists above, does it surprise you that you can make more money, have more free time, and enjoy it more when you get your stress under control?
“Sure, but I can’t go live on top of a mountain. I have to live in the real world.”
Of course you do. And so do I.
(I’ll let you in on a little secret. I didn’t get so knowledgeable about stress, it’s effects, and the ways to manage it from living in isolation or from reading a book. I’ve been the trenches just like you. I had to learn the skills, techniques, and strategies for managing stress so that I didn’t go under from all the stress. The good news is that they ARE learnable… and YOU can master them.)
In previous posts I have shared a few easy-to-apply techniques to give you quick relief from your stress. Any one of those can change the stress level in your day. In upcoming posts I’ll share some techniques that will provide intermediate and long-term relief from stress.
But, just applying short-term stress-reduction techniques won’t solve the bigger stress issues in your life. It’s like trying to use a pail to bail out the water from a leaking boat. If the hole in the boat is big enough, the water will come in faster than you can bail it out. In this case, you are better off plugging the hole, then bailing. Or, at least, use a power pump to bail while you plug the hole.
Plugging the holes in your life that allow the stress to come pouring in will pay big dividends to you. But it will take more than a 2 minute breathing exercise to do that.
The good news is that it can be done… and you don’t have to do it alone. I’m here to guide you along the way.
I’d love to hear the challenges that you are having in your life with stress management… or the challenges that stress is bringing to your life. Feel free to use the comments. Or, if you want some individual help, use one of the other contact methods available.