Deal with Immediate Stress – Immediately

When stress rears its ugly head, the best thing you can do is address it immediately. The sooner you become aware that you are being stressed – and take action on that awareness – the faster you can escape its clutches. Many of us are so used to stress that we don’t notice when stressors are attacking us. We walk around oblivious to the many small things stressing us and let the stress build… and build… and build. Finally, we explode. Or, perhaps, we have a sickening feeling in the pit of our stomach. Or, maybe, it’s a pounding headache. … Continue reading

Stress and Your Stories

Recently, we have been covering some stress management techniques. You may recall that we talked about breathing, exercise, getting outside, and talking with a friend. These are short-term stress management techniques so that you can de-stress enough to implement more long-term solutions. But, in this next series of posts, I want to talk about something that generates stress for us – something that we can change just by becoming aware of it. I have mentioned before that stress is a part of life – a necessary part of life. The same struggles that are required for a butterfly to emerge … Continue reading

Is Stress Really That Bad?

If you have followed me for any time, you may have already heard me share that “Stress Makes You Stupid”. (I originally heard that from Silvia Hartmann.) And, it’s true.   However, Silvia recently pointed out that stress has some other nasty implications (I mean besides the usual suspects.) For instance, are you a better person when you are not stressed? Most of us are. Relaxed, not stressed (possible/probable) behaviors: Calm Understanding Patient Loving Considerate Joyful Creative Happy Playful Clear-thinking Thoughtful Productive Energetic   And, the other side of the coin is our behavior when we are stressed.   Stressed … Continue reading

How to Be Smarter

Can you be smarter? Would you like to be? Stress Makes You Stupid. It shuts down the brain and sends you into auto-survival mode. You don’t think, you react. What if you weren’t so stressed? Would that change the way you think? Would you be smarter? Would you make better decisions? I think so. I’m not the only one, though. Behavioral scientists think so, too. They have made extensive studies and have come to understand how badly stress affects us. They know it adversely affects our health. They know it affects our mental processes — in a bad way. They … Continue reading

Make Your Reality Better Than a Fantasy

I once had a bumper sticker/placard that read “I have given up on reality and am now simply searching for a good fantasy.” I kept that for a long time because it resonated so much with me. (Somewhere along the way, it disappeared but I can still quote it from memory.) Have you ever felt that way, too? If so, I have really good news! You create your own reality. Or, perhaps, I should say, you co-create your own reality. And, yes, that really is good news. I hear you saying, “Oh, no! I didn’t create this. I don’t want … Continue reading